Monday, October 09, 2006

Dissed by a playgroup mom

I just finished hosting the second meeting of our playgroup at my house, but for some reason one of the moms didn't respond to my email or bother showing up. This meant that it was just me and one other mom because so far we haven't had anyone else in the vast mothers' group list want to meet on Monday mornings. This no-show mom's absence was pretty conspicuous, then, as you might imagine, and I couldn't help feeling like I was back in high school again or something. Like I planned a party where I invited someone I liked--because I did entertain visions that this mom and I would really like each other--who just didn't come. I'm wondering now what did I do to scare her off. I mean, I didn't even cuss lat week! Am I some kind of weirdo? Oooh, or maybe it was the crappy, 80's hair band music that the other mom played in the background when we met at her house last week that scared this California native off? (Actually, I thought it was a pretty weird choice of music myself, but what do you do when it's someone else's house?) I don't know. But I can't help feeling a little rejected. Stupid, huh? When I'm in my mid-30's now, happily married, with a pretty sound self-image?

5 comments:

Suzanne said...

I have a similar reaction in situations like this -- and I have a feeling it's not going to go away!

Anonymous said...

I try to be considerate of others so incidents like that upset me but things can happen. I didn't hear from one girl for my daughter's birthday party. Turns out her grandmother got really sick. I didn't go through my daughter's backpack over spring break and therefore failed to see a birthday invitation so your never know. Whether she had a good reason or is just plain rude, I wouldn't take it personally. I believe I saw an article in the paper recently how more and more people are ignoring RSVP's.

Nikkie said...

I would have a similar reaction to that. Thats probably why I avoid doing those sorts of things.

Brony said...

I would have felt the same way. It's hard.

The real issue however is nothing to do with you. It is the mom. Some people are just rude and ignortant. They think they are above RSVPing. They assume that by not responding the person knows it means they are no coming.

You can also take what Joan said. You just never know.

I hope the two of you had fun!

Mama D said...

I am always worrying about stuff like that. I want to be liked by everyone... I'm sure she doesn't think you are a weirdo. It's more likely that the hair band music did scare her off. :)